Dear looking for help, There are lots of things you could do. First, you could talk about your problems with your cousin, and ask her to return what she borrowed from you. If this means nothing to her, you should not lend anything to her. Second, you can borrow something, maybe a dictionary from her, and don't return it, By doing this, she may know you also need something. Maybe she could return you math book. Good luck! Yours, Aunt Chen